School is back but what is supposed to be an important part of your child’s life can be incredibly difficult if they run into problems with their classmates. If you suspect that your child is being bullied at school, there are a few things you can do without exacerbating the situation.
Firstly, making an appointment to see their class teacher is a must. You don’t need to talk to your child about this, but if you feel like they would like to know, explaining your reasons for doing this calmly will help them understand that you’re helping. It is better to see the teacher one on one so that you are able to focus completely on the task at hand. When you and the class teacher get together, explain your worries in a calm and measured way, you can ask the teacher questions about how your child is getting on and how they behave around other children. You can speak to them about whether they have noticed anything about your child and if they can keep an eye on them for a couple of weeks to see if they spot anything about their relationship with their classmates.
Many schools have policies in place to tackle this kind of thing and finding out what they suggest will help you get a grip on the situation.
After seeing your classroom teacher, there are a couple of things you can do to monitor the situation yourself, such as: keeping a diary of what your child says is happening. This should include the dates, times and details of any incidents together with witnesses.
If you feel that the situation hasn’t been resolved, write a letter to a senior member of staff that includes the details of your classroom meeting and the lists you’ve been keeping about incidents. It is important that your letter is calm and diplomatic, one of the things you can do is suggest supervision and monitoring of your child and the anyone they are having problems with, you can then ask for a follow-up appointment to speak to school staff to find out more about their course of action.
In extreme cases, if you haven’t noticed an improvement, you can speak to the head teacher and the board of governors, it is important to put any complaints in writing so that there is a record of your concerns.